Monday, November 15, 2010

The Big ol' Nothin

A failed IVF cycle is one of the more "unfair" things in the universe. It really is, and I'm not complaining, it just is. You go in, you pay your money, you do all the right stuff the right way at the right time and all the odds are in your favor.

But that doesn't mean much really because it's a big crap shoot at the end.

So when it fails you think "what did we do wrong" "what can we do better this time" and so forth. But the truth is, you did nothing wrong and there is likely nothing you could do better.

So, when it fails the best you can do is cope. So Mo and I are coping. We were surprisingly more emotionally ready than we suspected. I may hit us more over the next few days, but right now, we are okay.

However, I did find this woman's blog. She also had a failed IVF cycle, and she is hilarious. In particular, this post was a riot and helped me greatly. Eventually she did have a child and now is working twins (good for her, could not be happier for her). But one of the best things she posted was this video. Mo and I laughed, and it felt good.

If the video offends you, there is probably a reason it does.

4 comments:

  1. I know you've heard "sorry" about a million times by now. You guys are very brave and strong in this. I'm extremely impressed about the way you've handled everything.
    I know you will get a baby, and that baby (or babies) will know they are loved, by the sheer amount of effort you guys put into getting them into this world.
    Also, that song rocks!

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  2. That is one of my favorite videos of all time. I can't share it with too many people because I'm never sure who is going to get all up in arms and huffy about it, or I would have shown it to you ages ago!

    The post you linked to was hilarious and perfect. I didn't know until I read this that 'maybe' ended up being 'no', so that made me sad. It's hard to know what to say, so I'll just say I love you both, and I'm always thinking of you.

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  3. So glad you two are supporting each other through an emotionally-driven time! My dear friend who I stood by going through IVF just 2 years ago had a very rough first round....she got pregnant, but by golly, it was ectopic...and so she had to have surgery to have it removed only weeks after being so excited. I wanted to do something to cheer her up SO bad, but she just had to grieve for a spell.
    You are right, it's all a "crap shoot" really. Even without IVF, you hold your breath at ultrasounds praying that baby is healthy (or at least I do).
    God has this one. It's gonna happen. :)

    Ok, i really wanna go watch this link...

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  4. PS: OH, my friend has an adorable boy now. He couldn't be more perfect. We celebrated his first birthday last month. :)

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