Yes, I'm thrilled out of my mind I'm having a son. What's not to be happy about? But that's hardly the only thing going on. I'm dealing with a greater than average amount of work burnout and just about to lose my mind if I don't get some time off. (next week, thank God).
Statue of Happiness from GTA. Theoretically modeled after Hilary Clinton |
- Pleasure (tasty foods, warm baths, etc.),
- Engagement (or flow, the absorption of an enjoyed yet challenging activity),
- Relationships (social ties have turned out to be extremely reliable indicator of happiness),
- Meaning (a perceived quest or belonging to something bigger), and
- Accomplishments (having realized tangible goals).
I give you the face of happiness. |
Well, yeah, actually, I guess it can.
But the happiness doesn't last of course. You have to stop playing and come back to reality.
No, dude, you're doing it wrong. |
So, if you need a dose of happiness in your day you can usually find it by just doing something that is inherently pleasurable. It will almost certainly be temporary, but most happiness is anyway. If you get lucky enough to find some activity that can be maintained over the course of several minutes (or hours) that brings you happiness, lucky you. That's awesome.
My activity is doing nothing. Doing nothing feels good (it is pleasurable). Finding time and mental ability to do nothing is challenging, but once actively doing nothing, I find it engaging. I often do nothing with Mo and "couch time" (where we lay on the couch together and do nothing) is one of our favorite things to (not?) do. Doing nothing has meaning in the sense that it recharges my physical and mental reserves while building my marital bond. Finding time to do nothing with Mo is a tangible goal.
I've totally done this. |
Sadly, you are not Bi-winning. |
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