Showing posts with label Jojo. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Jojo. Show all posts

Sunday, September 14, 2014

Son-day crash

Wowza.

What a week.

Well, the last couple days anyway. I want to start taking him on a dedicated field trip on Thursdays. Most of the time that will mean the Zoo because the zoo is awesome and I have a zoofriends membership and the zoo is awesome.

I also started including an art project into his week. This week was handprint art.

which was cool
He did better than I thought he would. I put him in one of my old shirts. He thought wearing "daddy shirt" was pretty cool.

it was also adorable
Saturday was crazy busy. I had to get up early to make cookies for the bake sale, shop the craft fair (I got something awesome, photos in a week or two), then head to Norman for a birthday party. Was a ton of fun and for the most part Jo did well. At the party, Jo started getting very fussy, but it was almost an hour past his nap time after a day of running around. Honestly, I don't blame him. I was tired and cranky too.

Today, we acknowledged the children's ministry volunteers at church. Jo really didn't do much with that (the older kids did). So we made sure to thank his teachers privately. He's really been doing well at during sunday school and at the MDO (or so I am told).

So we are very tired today and likely tomorrow may be a bit of a recovery day because Tuesday is State Fair day with Mommy (who will finish her 5th 12-hour shift in a row tonight). We are VERY excited she will be home for a couple days). The other day Jo said "where's mommy? she's working." to himself.

Sunday, August 31, 2014

What a Son-day!

One of the most interesting things about being the SAHD is how much more time I get to spend with Mo. This is unexpected because part of the way this works is she works and extra 12 hour shift each week. (I spent a year doing 50+ hour weeks, it's tough and she's amazing). We kinda assumed that this would mean we either wouldn't see each other as much, or potentially even less.

But here's the thing. We only have to worry about her schedule. Jo and I are available more or less whenever she is. This means whenever she does have free time, we are good to go. We don't have to juggle my schedule or daycare or anything.

The only thing getting in the way is her homework. She is in her last year of this masters degree and it's no joke hard work and takes up some time. When she is done, we will be golden. For now, we do what we can.

But, the other day she woke up with Jo and got him fed so I could grab a couple minutes of sleep and shave in peace. When I was ready I told her I was ready to take Jo so she could get going on homework. Then this happened.

"I got that done when Jo was eating breakfast"

"What?"

"It's done for today, I got it done."

"go shower, we're going to the zoo. High five."

Then we went to the zoo.

And everything was awesome forever. 

Monday, August 18, 2014

Cranky Son-day

So we went to church on Sunday. Jo was kinda cranky in the morning, but not too bad. Then fell asleep in the car and slept through the first part of service. This was nice, and quiet, and sweet.

And could not last.

He woke up and was a complete pill through sunday school, the ride home, basically the rest of the day in general.

So, I figured, he was already upset and cranky. May as well cut his hair.

May have over done it.

Sunday, August 10, 2014

Dad-time Son-day

This week Jo went to the new MDO. It was a rougher drop-off than I thought it would be. He loooooves the toddler room at school. It's actually pretty tough to get him out of there when church is over. However, it took a good bit to get him to detach and go to the room on Wednesday. His teacher told me he was mostly fine and did good with the other kids.

I never believe people when they say he did fine.

I mean, when I do stuff with him, like go to the store...
Yes, it's as big as him. Everyone in the store smiled. 
Or play outside in the water...
love that thing.
Or whatever, he does fine. Maybe 1 in 10 times he is fussy or difficult. But in my mind, 10 seconds after I leave a room, his eyes glow red and he is horrid for hours on end. Then, people are too nice to look at me and say "Sir, your son is the anti-christ, here is holy water...do what needs to be done."

But, no matter how good he is, I need some time just to myself. I think everyone does. Not everyone gets it, but they need it. Last night I was able to just go out of the house without him. Went to Game HQ. I never buy anything there, or stay longer than 20 minutes, but I like to poke my nose in every now and again. It was nice to just kinda get away for an hour or so.

Sunday, August 3, 2014

Super-slide Son-day

We went to TX yesterday for Miles' birthday. We've been looking forward to it because it's about the only time we get to see the Hendrix.

well, that and the In-N-Out burger. 
We would have liked to have stayed longer, even overnight, but it just wasn't feasible. As it was we got back just in time to let mo get her homework done before homework. Mo has 11 months left till she is done with her Masters degree. That should free up our flexibility for awesome things like spending a weekend with the Hendrix.

The party itself was pretty normal for the Hendrix...

...and by "normal", I mean "awesome". 
They were, as always, amazing hosts and the company they keep is wonderful. Every time I go, I meet some new friend of theirs who is awesome. It was also good to see Jennifer and her kids.

Here are a few of the highlights as the party continued:
First, Jenn and Shonda went down the slide.
Then, Jack went down...fully dressed.
Then, the magic happened.

Monday, July 21, 2014

Science Son-day

Today Jo had his dental check up. He did okay. Some crying of course, but come on. How often do you go to the dentist and not want to cry a little? What's weird is he loves to play with the toothbrush the dentist gives him. Just carries it around with him. We don't use it for brushing, we have another one for that.

After the dentist I was going to take him to the playground at the zoo...but it was HOT and a little busy. So, I figured I would give the science museum a try. He may be too young, but...we'll see how it goes.

It went well. 
He was pretty skittish at first. Little confused, little overwhelmed. He would have happily spent the entire day going up and down the stairs. Guys, seriously, the science museum has so many stairs. I felt bad about skipping my workout today until I was on my 5th time up the stairs.

He finally got interested in things that were not stairs.

Then, he found more stairs...



All in all, it was a successful trip. The science museum is a little pricey, but for when the weather is unbearable, it's a good way to get Jo out of the house. The annual pass may or may not be worth it.

Monday, July 14, 2014

Staying Home Son-day

Most of my closest friends already know this, but many others do not. At the end of May I lost my job. Technically, the position simply ceased to exist. I'm not going to dig into the details or my financial stability (both are fine). That's just not something I want to discuss or a real concern.

A more interesting, and vastly more relevant, discussion answers the question "So what the hell are you gonna do now?" 

I don't really know. I've applied to some school jobs (school psych and various levels of administration) with no real success. Either I am not really considered or the offer is a bad fit. Job hunting is exactly zero fun. Mo suggested she make some career/job changes so that I could be a stay-at-home-dad. Right now, that is the most likely scenario.

This last month and a half has been, by a WIDE margin, the best six weeks of the past...six years or so. Jo still goes to daycare most days, but I spend way more time with him. I've gotten stuff done around the house I never expected to get done. I've freed up Mo's time and (hopefully) given her more time to rest and get homework done. I'm happy, relaxed, and feel better about basically everything. I'm losing weight like crazy (with absolutely no effort whatsoever). 

In short, I wish I had quit two years ago. 
It's a weird transition though. I have my daily, weekly, monthly, and seasonal to-do lists. I have list of activities to do with Jo when we pull him from daycare. I have contact information for several mother's day out programs. (I've even made jokes about how completely sexist that term is). 

I think it will work out fine, and I'll keep job hunting for the right job. I'm even working on filing for unemployment benefits. I am not at all convinced it will be a long term thing. But, if it turns out to be...

I can think of worse ways to spend time.

Tuesday, May 6, 2014

Time

A few years back I used to play world of Warcraft. Then I stopped playing. For about a week I had no idea what to do. I couldn't remember what I did with my time when I wasn't playing Warcraft.

Now, I am sitting here at my desk. I have no homework. Jo is hanging out with his grandma (she invited him over).

I have no idea what to do.

I'm not bored, and there is a plethora of things I could do. There always is. Anyone who says "there's nothing to do" has never been to a library and doesn't know that Project Gutenberg is a thing. There's plenty I can do. I own a house for heaven's sake. It's a 30 year old house, there is a ton to do. Most I can't afford, but there's stuff to do. But there is nothing I have to do. I can sit here and stare at the wall if I so please.

More to the point, I don't know what I want to do. I haven't had that luxury in so long I'm confused by the question. I can't even seem to generate options. I'm just sitting here like. "People sometimes choose what they do with their time?" These are of course strange people, wise enough to avoid grad school. I envy these people.

So, here's a picture of Jo. Mo sent me this picture before the MFT exam. Evidently, Jo was wishing me good luck.

Tuesday, August 20, 2013

Vacation renovation

The week before last I took a vacation from work. This is the first time I've taken a vacation in three years. That was a mistake.

I'm just going to put this right here. 
It was nice being away from the clinic for a bit. Spent time with the family, worked on a couple house projects.

Jo is doing well. He's seeing a speech path, he's babbling a lot and it's getting to be consistent, but it horridly unclear. Not really words. It's getting better slowly. He started daycare and that is going well too. While I was off work we took him to the OK Aquarium

armed with blanket and glowing eyes, he fears no shark. 
It was fun, but the trip was long and hard on him.

My glasses broke just before the vacation. I had to get a cheap pair to cover while my real glasses were put together. They are the cheapest pair that eye mart would sell me.
hello ladies. 
Mo convinced me to get prescription sunglasses. They came in just before I drove down to TX for Jack's "I'm not in the Marines anymore party". Fun times. However, he was disappointed that my mom did not come visit too.
Jack sad. 
But it was good to see the Hendrix and I could not be more proud of him and excited about his new job.

The rest of the vacation was spent dealing with finishing stage 1 of the kitchen make over. The painting and such was easy, just time consuming and an exercise in patience. The new hinges were a nightmare but eventually they got sorted out.
here's some before and after shots.
before
after
before
after
before
after
So that's stage 1.

About 20 minutes after the photos were taken, I ripped that horrid laminate backsplash off. The next stage will be to add some under cabinet lighting. Then paint the counter top, then do a new backsplash.

But right now, we're dealing with my dad who is in the hospital.

Monday, April 22, 2013

The House

Well, the appraisal and inspection went through without adding new complications. That pretty much means we will be closing on the house by the end of the month. We want to me moved in by June. I figured I would post about it and share some photos.

It's in NW OKC more or less at the corner of Counsel and 112nd in the Willow Creek Estates neighborhood.
it needs a paint job.
The yard is Rye Grass. They probably did that to increases curb appeal because it's green no matter what, but you have to reseed every year. There used to be a big tree in the front yard (I saw some old photos) but I bet one of the ice storms brought it down. Structurally, the house is rock solid. No foundation problems, no interior issues. It has good bones.

I'd like to give the front walk and steps a bit more curb appeal. Not sure how though. The little tree and the hedge are just out of control huge and we don't like them. Maybe a patio or fresh walkway.

We'd like to extend the roof line down the driveway so my folks will have some covered parking. Have to see if the HOA will let that happen.

this is the floorplan
The house is cavernous big. Well over 3k sq. ft. The back section is an attached apartment the original owners (we are the second owners) built for a grandmother. That's pretty much our use for it too.
Front Living Room
This is the front living room. The photo is taken from a raised entryway. We want to re-tile the entryway and redo the entryway closets. Those book cases are not built it, they just look like it. They will get moved, likely into the spare bedroom or the dining room (which you can see through the opening in the back of this picture.

I'm thinking a large sliding barn-door to seperate the dining room (which will likely be my office/man-cave). Alternatively, a door hidden as a fake bookshelf. A window seat for that window is something I want to do for Mo. Otherwise, this room will be the main living room with the TV and such.
In this photo, of the den, you can see the entryway tile in the bottom left corner. It's gotta go, as do the ugly railings. The 1970's lighting in the left corner of the den is as good as gone. We may or may not redo the brick of the fireplace, but the shelves need to be redone with a new stain. The wooden pillars will likely be removed. I'd also like to open up the wall into the kitchen. The door to the right goes into the living room of the apartment.
Here you can see the apartment living room and the doors. I'd like those door replaced. One option is hidden door made to look like a wall or bookcases. Maybe a sliding barn door. Not sure, but something that serves are a better boundary to the apartment. My folks need their privacy and so do we. I'd like to take out that wall in the back. It creates a pointless hallway and I don't like hallways.
The kitchen is decent sized, but the cabinets and counter-tops need some love.  The appliances are very nice, we just need a microwave and a refrigerator. Mo really wanted a flat-top stove and this kitchen has that. Someday, we want to completely redo the kitchen, but for now we are going to stain the cabinets. There is a doorway on the left that goes into the laundry and to the garage. There is also a half-bath there. I like the big window on the right, but it goes into the apartment. The french-doors on the window are cheap and don't close and I'm not sure what the future fate of that space will be.

You can see a door through the window. That is the external entryway into the apartment. It's important that remains. We may have to wall up the window to offer my folks a place to hang coats and have an real entryway. It's not a huge deal, but something to think about.
This is looking from the kitchen toward the den. The door on the right goes into the formal dining room. That wall will almost certainly be walled up to create more counter space (and because there is no reason to have a door into my office from the kitchen). The little table and bookshelf there is going away soon too. There's just no need for it and just about anything would make more sense.
This is the dining room. I was aversive to getting rid of the built-in hutch, but neither Mo nor I like it. I'm not sure anyone does. Plus, we don't have good dishes and don't care if we ever do. Then, Mo and my mom thought this would be a good 'man cave' space for me. I though that was cool, we never formally dine or have any interest in ever doing so. So, The hutch will be taken out and a wall put there. I'm thinking a door to the left of the hutch so I can access the half bath. Then, redo the wall so the laundry space is better. The door to the kitchen will be walled up because it will serve to offer more counter space. I'm also thinking I may cut the room in half (or so), to make a space for a pantry. Not sure. Lots of options, but it's a big room and I don't need that much space.
Here is the master bedroom. It's nice. The curtains will be changed (and hung correctly). Repainting is almost certain. That door is smaller than a standard door. Moreover, I think it used to just be open to the bathroom. We may change it, I'm not sure.
This is the master bathroom. Behind the picture is the shower and toilet. Through the door is a closet. There is also a closet in the bedroom...so lots of closet space, but no tub. It's weird.
This will likely be Jojo's bedroom.
Hopefully, a future nursery when Mo and I try for another baby. For now...spare bedroom, storage, play room? Basically, whatever Mo wants to do with it.
This is the fourth bedroom of the main house. That window opens into the living room of the apartment, not to the exterior of the house. We are going to turn it into a doorway and let this room be an office space/spare room for the apartment. My folks need a little more space and a room for computers and such. This will do that. I'm thinking the doorway from the main house to this room will become a sort of 'secret door' made to look like a picture wall or bookcase. Still accessible, but not obvious or noticeable.
Here, you see my parents entry into the living room of the apartment. Not much in the way of a real entryway. You can see the kitchen through that window. Really not sure how to deal with that space. It's weird.
Although, the apartment living room is probably the best room in the house. It has a great view of the backyard and has a very open feel to it. When we redo the flooring (pergo throughout) it will get rid of the mismatched carpet. around the corner to the right is the rest of the apartment.
The kitchen/dining area is a little small and funky. Not sure what can be done here, but my dad is pretty clever. That closet has the water heater so it can't really be used as a closet. That's kinda my issue with the apartment, not entry space to put coats and such. It's goofy. I know there is a solution, just haven't figured it out yet. Ultimately, it's not my problem. It's my folks space and they can damn well do whatever they want with it.
This is the apartment bedroom. It's bigger than the picture makes it look, but it's not huge. The doors on the right go to a closet and the bathroom. They are thinking about making the back wall (to the right of the window wall) into a patio door that opens onto the side lawn. That way they have their own private small yard. I think it's a great idea. I don't have any real say in the interior of the apartment, that's their business. If it changes the exterior, Mo and I have a say, but we are totally on board for the patio door and side lawn. I think it will look good and give my folks an added sense of privacy. An exterior space they can do whatever they want with. It's a good idea is my point.
The back yard of this house is just nuts. It's well kept and pretty. Dad and I want to rebuild that shed into a usable workshop. Those two stone areas are neat, but I'm not sure what function they will serve. The large flat one will make a good space to work on things until the shop is built. The other...I have no idea. It may be removed to offer more running space for Jo. The deck is nice too, but the wood is old and badly sealed. A few of the trees are in bad shape and need to be taken down.
That ivy has to go. Maybe a fence or something around the electrical pole (decorative but will keep Jo away from it). That tree is tilting badly and need to be taken down. I LOVE the stone walkway. I also want to enclose the AC unit in something a bit more decorative.
That swing is massive, and old, and showing it's age. We may cover the deck and almost certainly get a new swing that takes up a little less acreage.  We want to fence up the rest of the yard too. Part of what you see is the neighbors yard and in the back is the green belt. We still want to access the greenbelt though, so a fence with gate is likely. The wood of the deck needs to be replaced. Maybe with something a bit more durable. I'd also like to extend the roof a bit to make sure my folks have covered access to their door. Because it's Oklahoma.

Well, that's the free tour of the future Casa-Medders. It's big and we have about a billion projects. There is literally not one room that doesn't need some kind of work. But, we have time and we are patient. It takes time to make a house a home.

Thursday, March 28, 2013

I am a stupid person

Some people think I am a smart person. This flies right in the face of all available evidence. Let me show you the facts.

1. I am working on a second masters degree.
2. While my wife is working a masters degree.
3. While raising a 15 month old.
"Bwahahahahahahaha"
4. While working full-time
5. While my wife is working full-time.
6. While looking for a house.
7. With my parents.

Any one of those things is enough to stress a fella out and make him a little crazy. I'm doing all of them at the same time. Furthermore, I use italics a lot so you know it's really crazy.

The only rational conclusion is that I am a profoundly, unquestioningly, certifiably, stupid person. 

Thanks Fred, happy belated birthday btw.

Sunday, March 17, 2013

Stressin-it Son-day

Woah. Just, for like 20 minutes, woah. Take a breath okay.

Ever since I changed a few things down at the clinic, it's been really busy at work. I created a lot more time to get things done and suddenly, I'm getting so much more done. I basically bounced from one meeting to the next all week. We also got new carpet, that was cool.

Thankfully, this coming week is spring break and I can breath a little. Mo, Jo, and I are going to New York to visit the in-laws and aunts. They've never seen Jo and Mo hasn't seen them in like 5 years. It will be cool for everyone to see each other again.

Traveling on a plane with a baby...yeah, that might be a thing.

um...why does this picture even exist?
I'll let you know how the trip goes next time. Good I hope. Going out east is always kinda weird. Every trip has been a real adventure. Sometimes a good and relaxing one...sometimes just expensive and best forgotten. It's the roads I'm dreading. The weather is cold out there still.

In other news, Jo learned a new trick.


Monday, March 4, 2013

Nasty Son-day

I have really enjoyed this human resources class. An 8-week course is a little intense and this was definitely intense, but it's been a good class. I learned so much. I'd really like to just blog about it all and really impress people, but that's not really what this blog is about.
stay on target...
 In addition to school being very busy, work has been interesting too. I changed how I do the editing process and it's MUCH faster now. An edit that used to take me 2 weeks to get through now takes like 2 hours. It frees me up to do my own evaluations and network with people on campus. We are even getting some help in our processes to try to lean the clinic up. It's intimidating because I know what I am doing is FAR from perfect and I'm sure I've made some procedural mistakes. I've also been horridly ignorant. I just hope my UCO colleagues are patient and forgiving. Facing these things can be a blow to my self-efficacy. So far, they've been amazing. But, that isn't really what this blog is about.

...stay on target...
Jo has been growing like a weed. He babbles non-stop and seems to figure something new out every couple of minutes. It's fun to watch.

This week Mo got sick and then Jo got sick. I got to clean up a lot of baby vomit. Then Pooka vomited and I got to clean up dog vomit. That's on top of the aforementioned school and work intensity. It's been super fun guys.

On the upside, Jo is much more cuddly when he is feeling bad. He's not much of a cuddler. He likes to run around and get into stuff. So, when he does cuddle, Mo and I try to get as much as we can. It's been nice but I think he's over the worst of if and going back to being crazy again.

CRAZY TIME!

Monday, January 21, 2013

Reading Son-day

Jojo likes to 'read' books. Mainly he turns the pages and babbles yells at the pages. It's pretty funny to watch.
BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH!!!!
Today we read one of several books we got in a collection of board books. I will now share with you the text in full.

"I can be Quiet
I can be quiet when Daddy asks me
I can be quiet when it's bedtime
I can be quiet when I'm out and about
I can be quiet when everyone else is quiet
I can be quiet when mommy is talking
I can be quiet when I'm eating"

Mo and I just laughed and laughed and laughed.